How did the experience of dating your spouse differ from dating someone you did not end up deciding was the one?
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I didn't have a whole lot of "serious" romantic relationships before my wife, but one thing that set everything a part was a complete feeling of security and trust. I didn't have to live every minute on the edge or out of fear something would go wrong. When the inevitable problems would rise, I knew we could and would work through them. It was something I had never experienced before."I am not angered that the Moral Majority boys campaign against abortion. I am angry when the same men who say, "Save OUR children" bellow "Build more and bigger bombers." That's right! Blast the children in other nations into eternity, or limbless misery as they lay crippled from "OUR" bombers! This does not jell." - Leonard Ravenhill
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And to point out a different experience:
the whole time I was with my ex-spouse I could not trust him;even during the so called "reasonable" experience I constantly had to baby and take care of him, and listen to everything he said, wanted and thought of. Later It was consistently one-sided and while he reciprocated affection it was constantly attached to some kind of manipulative factor. I had external fears, pressures, I felt compelled and forced to do everything I was told to do, and it was horrible. There was a lot of and "you will do this or else...." I had not say so in the relationship.
Prior to my 2nd marriage it was equal we had mutual respect for one another, and a lot of love. We could ask each other for our needs/wants to be met and know that it was going to happen, even if we had to talk it through and it would be tough. We can trust each other completely. No matter how afraid I am or he is/was, we do not and did not berate each other and its hard and was hard but we have worked to see the other's perspective.A happy family is but an earlier heaven.
George Bernard Shaw
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Originally posted by Anastasia Dragule View PostHow did the experience of dating your spouse differ from dating someone you did not end up deciding was the one?
The first time I went to her house to pick her up for a date, she wanted to show me her back yard. While we were standing on her back porch, I asked her about her faith situation, and it turns out she had been attending a Lutheran Church, but had never accepted Christ as Savior. I explained to her what that entailed, and asked her to think about it.
The next Sunday, I picked her up for Church, and she accepted Jesus as Savior.The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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There were many things that were different.
But one the one's that was interesting was that during previous relationships, although we had talked about marriage, I actually had anxiety about actually getting married to those people. In other words, I was fine talking about it, as long as marriage was in the distant future -- but the idea of getting married to those people at that time somewhat freaked me out.
On the other hand, with my wife, I was sincerely excited to get married to her. I had absolutely ZERO reservations.
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Originally posted by Anastasia Dragule View PostHow did the experience of dating your spouse differ from dating someone you did not end up deciding was the one?That's what
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Without a clear-cut definition of sin, morality becomes a mere argument over the best way to train animals
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