Originally posted by seer
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If an otherwise good parent doesn't do the last two on your list you gave earlier(keeping the kids close, and letting them know they are accepted*), then that's going to make communication on already difficult subjects harder. I think that in such a case it would be good if kids had access to someone who could act as a mediator of sorts. Not someone who will just reject the parents, or tell the kid to just ignore their parents.
I know that ideals are just that, and are often not met, but I think that there should be somewhere/someone kids can go to if their parents aren't trustworthy/good. I don't know who would be best either, but I think it's an issue that needs to be taken into consideration. For the record, I agree with you on what parents should be doing.
I'm also not saying that children should just be made exempt from parent's decisions. I do think there are cases where a kid would need help, even if it's just to communicate better with their parents for whatever reason.
*Some people aren't very good at showing their feelings, and that would make those two things rather difficult for said person to do. If a kid doesn't know their parents feelings, then it would be hard to feel close, or even know how loved they really are.
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