Originally posted by Mountain Man
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Originally posted by oxmixmudd
The written theologies of various teachers: I gave you one example of such a problematic theology, Piper's ESS. You would need to engage in an actual discussion for there to be a capacity to expand on WHY it is problematic, why it is 'unbalanced'
Sermons from various popular pastors. I'd have to research it, I don't have any accessible immediately. I know the fellow at Mars Hill (Marc Driscoll) was especially bad. I could look op sermons from Piper and others, Paige Patterson, platforms of the SBC, etc. It's a systemic thing. And again, I also have seen the impact of it (even helped a woman and her children escape an abuse situation that I believe was related to it). I know of several situations were men abusive to their wives gained the sympathy of their pastors. I know of and have heard pastors allude to the adultery being caused by the womens lack of effort at making herself attractive - again stemming from an overarching view that the woman is to submit herself to the man, that she is to serve and please him more than he is to serve and sacrifice himself on her behalf (as Christ did for hte Church). In fact, I can't remember more than a very small number of sermons preached where the concept of the Husband sacrificing himself for the sake of the wife were ever even mentioned.
I would hazard to guess that elements I consider red flags you would not, and that would be another source of disagreement.
But I stand by my statement. The traditional, conservative teaching surrounding the relationship between husband and wife is sourced in a patriarchal society where women were uneducated and barely more than property. There is evidence for at least one women elder in the Early church but that those translating found it distasteful and changed the name to a masculine form. There were deaconesses. Paul's teaching includes "In Christ there is no male or female, no jew nor greek etc" which provides a better principle that some of the specific direction given within that patriarchal culture. We already accept that Paul's teaching on slaves was accommodated to the culture, not an endorsement of slavery itself.
The biggest evidence MM is all around you. The effect of Patriarchal cultures on women for millenia, and to this day. The sort of authority structure you have in your church perpetuates that same conceptualization of women as less than men, less worthy of church office, less intelligent, marginalized people meant to serve men. And that culture will always be more likely to foster abuse than one that recognizes the mental and spiritual equality of women and men.
Conservative churches are especially vocal about enforcing that culture as part of their attempt to remain Biblical. And so also tend to foster an environment where the abuse of women is more likely. The abuse, again, may take the form of trying to force the women to forgive infidelity on the part of the man, or of trying to 'counsel' her to endure abuse for a time with a goal of 'winning' the husband back (such counsel is almost never given in reverse). But it may not be 'abuse proper', and be as simple and demeaning as not allowing her to teach on a day where her male 'cover' is unable to attend the class she is teaching.
All conservative churches are not this way. My church's head elder is a woman. She preaches/teaches from the pulpit with the same regularity of any other elder (well perhaps more so given her position), and we are evangelical and conservative in most things that one would consider conservative. But then again, the head pastor of my church has been able to sift through these issues and recognizes the problems with the more typical responses to Paul's teaching in conservative circles.
It is what it is, your denials notwithstanding.
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