Is it possible?

[tabibito]

Bluntly, you have to allow someone else's words to hurt you.

That is not a requirement with actual violence.

If someone throws a fresh brewed pot of tea at you and you dodge, the person throwing the pot of tea has not intended violence? If a person is publicly accused of doing something that he has never done, with the intent that the accused be brought to harm, no violence has been done? No. The action is violent.

I mean under your criteria simply telling an unwanted truth could be construed as violence.

I would so class it - the question then arises as to whether the violence is justified.