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Originally posted by carpedm9587 View PostYes it is. I find "goodness" to be incompatible with "hate." Hate is a negative emotion. You cannot embrace the negative and retain a claim to being "good" (at least not with respect to that thing).
I'm not making my point well. CP helped me to see part of the problem (I think). There is nothing incompatible with testifying against someone who has harmed you and doing everything in your power to ensure a long sentence if you feel there is a genuine risk. There IS a problem with testifying against someone who has harmed you and doing everything in your power to ensure a long sentence if you are doing so out of a motivation of hatred and anger and vengeance.
When hate motivates us, we have given in to "the dark side." When we are motivated by love, we have not - even if we are making hard decisions. I have cut my youngest son off from all financial support. I have not done so out of hatred or anger. I have done so out of love - knowing that he is likely to use any money I make available to him to harm himself (drugs, yet another video game, etc.). I have made it clear to him that I will always be here - and I am ready/willing/able to help, the minute I have reason to believe he is actually interested in helping himself.
"Tough love" and "hate" are not the same thing. This is where I part company with the MM's and JPH's and Pix's of the world. Belittling and insulting others is an expression of hate. It is NOT tough love. There is no cause for it. It has no reasonable justification. It doesn't even make sense. I can challenge someone without doing any of those things. It accomplishes nothing but to further the antagonism and increase the trolling. I do not have to let the behavior of someone else dictate how I will interact with others. If I make the choice to be civil - I will be civil with anyone and everyone. The moment I let someone's trolling take me into the same kind of behavior in return, I have given them power over me - and let them make me someone and something I do not want to be. Returning "trolling" for "trolling" is easy. Maintaining civility in the face of an obvious troll - now THAT's hard. But I believe it is the good path - the right path. I also believe it is the only rational path.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostAnd when I do that, I try to make it obvious I'm being facetious or otherwise... um... just poking. Again, if you ever feel you were "slammed", point it out, and I'll be glad to apologize.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostOne size doesn't fit all, of course. In the example of a serial rapist, "forgiving" the guy and working to lessen his sentence might make you feel good, but it potentially puts other women at risk.
If, however, the circumstances are - for example - a fatherless young man who got caught up in the wrong crowd, and is sincerely repentant of his crime.... I actually work with people like that quite frequently, and have written about some of them on this very board. So, yeah, help where it's likely to do good for society.Some may call me foolish, and some may call me odd
But I'd rather be a fool in the eyes of man
Than a fool in the eyes of God
From "Fools Gold" by Petra
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Originally posted by seer View PostWell you guys just get a room!The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Originally posted by seer View PostGood so you agree that one could do right by a person while still having disdain for them or what they did.Some may call me foolish, and some may call me odd
But I'd rather be a fool in the eyes of man
Than a fool in the eyes of God
From "Fools Gold" by Petra
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Originally posted by Mountain Man View PostFor everything there is a season. This idea that there should be a "one size fits all" response to every situation is impractical and wrong. carpe's thinking strikes me as being too black and white on this topic.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostYeah, you're jealous.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s
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Originally posted by seer View PostI just thew up a little in my mouth!The first to state his case seems right until another comes and cross-examines him.
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Originally posted by Cow Poke View PostI appreciate knowing that - it gives me a sense of accomplishment.Atheism is the cult of death, the death of hope. The universe is doomed, you are doomed, the only thing that remains is to await your execution...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbnueb2OI4o&t=3s
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Originally posted by seer View PostI don't know, I think hating what Nazis do/did is a good thing.
Originally posted by seer View PostOK, I tend to agree. Though some would define vengeance as justice. There is a fine line though, we are not Vulcans after all.
Originally posted by seer View PostExcept, dark and light are purely subjective. Hate can motivate in good ways, in the sense that it can motivate one to get what he is after. Love and hate are perfectly natural human expressions. Imposing moral considerations is something I expect from a Theist.
I disagree that "hate can motivate in good ways." I would consider such a statement an oxymoron. I suspect MLK would agree.
I also have never suggested that hate does not happen - and is not perfectly natural. I have suggested that hate is not something any of us should be nurturing. Hate is part of the dark side of human emotions. It will happen. Nurturing it is pretty much always a mistake, IMO.The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King
I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas
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Originally posted by seer View PostWell you guys just get a room!The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King
I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas
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Originally posted by Mountain Man View PostFor everything there is a season. This idea that there should be a "one size fits all" response to every situation is impractical and wrong.
Originally posted by Mountain Man View Postcarpe's thinking strikes me as being too black and white on this topic.The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King
I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas
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Originally posted by Mountain Man View PostLet's put it this way: Just because I forgive someone for hurting me doesn't mean I'm obligated to become their friend.The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King
I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas
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Originally posted by seer View PostCarp has a problem with binary thinking, I have tried hard to break him of that bad habit!The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy...returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King
I would unite with anybody to do right and with nobody to do wrong. Frederick Douglas
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