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Are your loves out of whack?
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Do you really need to love something a little bit less? Let's talk about it on Deeper Waters.
C.S. Lewis once wrote that the problem we have is not that we love something too much. It's that we love what we ought to love too little. Our loves get out of order. I thought about this today as I saw my sister put up a meme about the two things women want. They want to eat and they want to lose weight. Many times, we do want things that are contradictory. We want to study the way that we should, but that new show came out on Netflix and we really want to binge watch it.
Right now, at the apartment complex we live in, the pool has just opened up. This is wonderful for Allie because she loves to swim and that's good exercise for me. It's a challenge for me because I really do not like water at all. I say this mainly because I want you to know I have to apply this in my own life. I had a frightening experience with water as a child growing up and so it takes everything to get me to function well in it. Still, it means a lot to Allie and I'm not sure how many people out there have noticed it, but women can sure be awfully persuasive to men.
So here I am caught between two things. I want to please Allie as much as I can, but there's a part of me that doesn't want to step out of my comfort zone. I want to stay safe. I want to avoid pain. Now to be sure, it doesn't mean that it'd be wise to say "I'm going to do the right thing right now and get over this and just jump into the deep end." No. That would be foolish. It means step by step I overcome the fear. For me for now, I'm working on getting used to getting my face to come into contact with water more and more until I'm comfortable with it.
To go to what my sister said, there's a really simple principle I think to dieting. When you love health more than you love food, then you will start to get health. That might sound really basic, but I think you will find it holds up. Unfortunately, too often we like to cheat with things like this and say "It's just a little bit." How many of us have said "I'll just spend a couple of minutes on Facebook" only to find out we've spent about half an hour scrolling through our news feed?
This is also what happens in marriage. It involves giving of yourself for the sake of the other. If I want my marriage to be the best, I have to look out for Allie first and myself second. Now for this to work optimally, Allie has to be willing to do the same thing. Unfortunately, there's a tendency to try to look out for #1. For men, it can be "What can I do to get sex out of this?" For women, it can be "What can I do for that emotional closeness to my husband?" This is why it's said that men usually give love to get sex and women give sex to get love.
So for getting past my fear of water, I need to seek to be more loving to my wife. How will this apply to other areas? Will I not be more willing to do anything for Jesus if I learn to love Him even more? Will I not want more of what He wants and live the way He would have me live?
Basically then, pick the area you want to succeed the most in and ask what you love the most. Whatever it is, that is the way that you will go. If you don't like where you're going, that's the time for some real introspection to ask about your priorities. It's something we all have to do, myself included.
Don't seek to love something else less. Just love the greater good more. See the good in it for what it is and seek to pursue it regularly.
In Christ,
Nick Peters
The link can be found here.
The text is as follows:
Do you really need to love something a little bit less? Let's talk about it on Deeper Waters.
C.S. Lewis once wrote that the problem we have is not that we love something too much. It's that we love what we ought to love too little. Our loves get out of order. I thought about this today as I saw my sister put up a meme about the two things women want. They want to eat and they want to lose weight. Many times, we do want things that are contradictory. We want to study the way that we should, but that new show came out on Netflix and we really want to binge watch it.
Right now, at the apartment complex we live in, the pool has just opened up. This is wonderful for Allie because she loves to swim and that's good exercise for me. It's a challenge for me because I really do not like water at all. I say this mainly because I want you to know I have to apply this in my own life. I had a frightening experience with water as a child growing up and so it takes everything to get me to function well in it. Still, it means a lot to Allie and I'm not sure how many people out there have noticed it, but women can sure be awfully persuasive to men.
So here I am caught between two things. I want to please Allie as much as I can, but there's a part of me that doesn't want to step out of my comfort zone. I want to stay safe. I want to avoid pain. Now to be sure, it doesn't mean that it'd be wise to say "I'm going to do the right thing right now and get over this and just jump into the deep end." No. That would be foolish. It means step by step I overcome the fear. For me for now, I'm working on getting used to getting my face to come into contact with water more and more until I'm comfortable with it.
To go to what my sister said, there's a really simple principle I think to dieting. When you love health more than you love food, then you will start to get health. That might sound really basic, but I think you will find it holds up. Unfortunately, too often we like to cheat with things like this and say "It's just a little bit." How many of us have said "I'll just spend a couple of minutes on Facebook" only to find out we've spent about half an hour scrolling through our news feed?
This is also what happens in marriage. It involves giving of yourself for the sake of the other. If I want my marriage to be the best, I have to look out for Allie first and myself second. Now for this to work optimally, Allie has to be willing to do the same thing. Unfortunately, there's a tendency to try to look out for #1. For men, it can be "What can I do to get sex out of this?" For women, it can be "What can I do for that emotional closeness to my husband?" This is why it's said that men usually give love to get sex and women give sex to get love.
So for getting past my fear of water, I need to seek to be more loving to my wife. How will this apply to other areas? Will I not be more willing to do anything for Jesus if I learn to love Him even more? Will I not want more of what He wants and live the way He would have me live?
Basically then, pick the area you want to succeed the most in and ask what you love the most. Whatever it is, that is the way that you will go. If you don't like where you're going, that's the time for some real introspection to ask about your priorities. It's something we all have to do, myself included.
Don't seek to love something else less. Just love the greater good more. See the good in it for what it is and seek to pursue it regularly.
In Christ,
Nick Peters
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