** First, I'd like to ask Paprika to not post in this thread. I just don't want to break my rule about responding to him ***
I don't like to advertise this much, but I think with the swirling discussions of Obamacare and other wealth distribution threads, I thought this would be a good place to make a few comments on my personal situation and why I do not like to get into income inequality discussions.
First, I am in no means wealthy from a US standpoint, nor have I ever been anywhere close. In my 21 year marriage, I have been on government assistance more than once, lost my house to a deed in lieu of foreclosure, been on unemployment for 6 months a few years ago, wife on unemployment for over a year just before mine, qualified for reduced lunches for my kids, had to rely on the generosity of church to eat and pay the bills more than once, lived in a government subsidized apartment, sat outside in the food pantry line, and I still owe over $100 K in debt (without owning the house I live in - I rent). In the over two decades of financial struggle, I have never once demanded what anyone else has, especially my wife's parents.
My wife is an only child. Her parents adopted her at the age of 5 when they were both established in their careers in their mid 30s. They are both now approaching 80, and have amassed a substantial amount of wealth. As of their last meeting with their broker, they have a net worth of almost $25 Million. They are extremely tight with their money, and the few times they have agreed to help us, it was with a loan, not a gift, and came complete with hours of lectures on irresponsibility and poor financial planning. We have paid most of it back though because they are not the type to stay quiet when they are owed something. They both came up dirt poor working on their parents' farms, and have worked very hard for what they have earned.
So, with that out of the way, in my lifetime, I will have the benefit of being both dirt poor, wondering where I am going to be living in 2 weeks, and being pretty well off, when the Lord takes my in-laws home. I don't like discussing wealth inequality because I know what it is like to be on the side of desperate need and I know what it is like to be pretty close to being relatively wealthy. I know I did not want to demand anything that anyone else had worked hard for just because my family was in need. I also know I do not want to be forced to give what I have to someone else just because they are in need. That will come from my heart, as we have plans to be a blessing to some others who helped us along the way. The perspective I have is tempered by my understanding of what someone in desperate need goes through and through knowing that I will one day have the ability to help a little bit.
So, that is why I do not like to discuss income inequality. Because I don't think forced giving is right. it was shameful for me to consider when I was in need, and it would only anger me when I am in plenty. Hopefully, I have made some sense.
I don't like to advertise this much, but I think with the swirling discussions of Obamacare and other wealth distribution threads, I thought this would be a good place to make a few comments on my personal situation and why I do not like to get into income inequality discussions.
First, I am in no means wealthy from a US standpoint, nor have I ever been anywhere close. In my 21 year marriage, I have been on government assistance more than once, lost my house to a deed in lieu of foreclosure, been on unemployment for 6 months a few years ago, wife on unemployment for over a year just before mine, qualified for reduced lunches for my kids, had to rely on the generosity of church to eat and pay the bills more than once, lived in a government subsidized apartment, sat outside in the food pantry line, and I still owe over $100 K in debt (without owning the house I live in - I rent). In the over two decades of financial struggle, I have never once demanded what anyone else has, especially my wife's parents.
My wife is an only child. Her parents adopted her at the age of 5 when they were both established in their careers in their mid 30s. They are both now approaching 80, and have amassed a substantial amount of wealth. As of their last meeting with their broker, they have a net worth of almost $25 Million. They are extremely tight with their money, and the few times they have agreed to help us, it was with a loan, not a gift, and came complete with hours of lectures on irresponsibility and poor financial planning. We have paid most of it back though because they are not the type to stay quiet when they are owed something. They both came up dirt poor working on their parents' farms, and have worked very hard for what they have earned.
So, with that out of the way, in my lifetime, I will have the benefit of being both dirt poor, wondering where I am going to be living in 2 weeks, and being pretty well off, when the Lord takes my in-laws home. I don't like discussing wealth inequality because I know what it is like to be on the side of desperate need and I know what it is like to be pretty close to being relatively wealthy. I know I did not want to demand anything that anyone else had worked hard for just because my family was in need. I also know I do not want to be forced to give what I have to someone else just because they are in need. That will come from my heart, as we have plans to be a blessing to some others who helped us along the way. The perspective I have is tempered by my understanding of what someone in desperate need goes through and through knowing that I will one day have the ability to help a little bit.
So, that is why I do not like to discuss income inequality. Because I don't think forced giving is right. it was shameful for me to consider when I was in need, and it would only anger me when I am in plenty. Hopefully, I have made some sense.

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