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The difference between harrassment and compliments.
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Originally posted by Paprika View PostYou seem to be labouring under the assumption that 'harassment' being persistent or repeated is something I have cooked up.
This will be the last post to you I'll do about that issue.
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Originally posted by Leonhard View PostDo you have anything to add, or do you not?
You asked me if I thought something was bad, and I replied trying to clarify 'bad'. Ball's in your court.
So far I'm surprised that on a Christian forum, when I post something about what is proper male conduct in society I only get criticism of it. The only one who seems to agree Spartacus who's a fellow Catholic, and an atheist.
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Originally posted by Paprika View PostBad by what standards? I can imagine that in some cultures complementing a female stranger on her hair and perfume would be acceptable while in others it would not.
So far I'm surprised that on a Christian forum, when I post something about what is proper male conduct in society I only get criticism of it. The only one who seems to agree Spartacus who's a fellow Catholic, and an atheist.
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Originally posted by Leonhard View PostThank you for giving a clarification. In the picture guideline you see a woman friendly complimenting on a fellow woman's hair. There's no sexual advance in this, and there's nothing that indicates lust in any meaningful way. If we imagine a woman sitting in an airport though, and a strange man she hasn't seen before scoots closer to her, or stands in front of her and tells her well she smells and how nice her hair is, would agree that this is bad behavior?
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Originally posted by Adrift View PostI think the definition of "harassment" you were originally working from was probably fine Leonhard. The US Equal Employment Opportunity website defines it as "unwelcome conduct that is based on race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information.", And the website http://www.stopstreetharassment.org defines street harassment as, "any action or comment between strangers in public places that is disrespectful, unwelcome, threatening and/or harassing and is motivated by gender or sexual orientation or gender expression. In countries like India and Bangladesh, it’s termed “eve teasing,” and in countries like Egypt, it’s called “public sexual harassment.”
I think most people who read your thread title knew what you were saying.
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Originally posted by Adrift View PostI think most people who read your thread title knew what you were saying.
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I think the definition of "harassment" you were originally working from was probably fine Leonhard. The US Equal Employment Opportunity website defines it as "unwelcome conduct that is based on race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information.", And the website http://www.stopstreetharassment.org defines street harassment as, "any action or comment between strangers in public places that is disrespectful, unwelcome, threatening and/or harassing and is motivated by gender or sexual orientation or gender expression. In countries like India and Bangladesh, it’s termed “eve teasing,” and in countries like Egypt, it’s called “public sexual harassment.”
I think most people who read your thread title knew what you were saying.
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Originally posted by Paprika View PostThe point is that the guidelines you posted in the form of the picture fails to cohere with the later criteria: complimenting someone on their hair or general beauty can be acting on lust, disturbing women, or objectifying them.
All I've done is to critique your guidelines; I'm not sure how that implies that I believe no good guideline is possible.
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Originally posted by Leonhard View Post
Granted, though I never said exclusively that lust was the issue. There is also the issue of whether or not its okay not to listen to women who tell us that these advances disturb them. There's also the issue of objectification; the women are approached for their assets and not for who they are.
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Hence the need for a discussion, because clearly (we both agree, and many non-Christians agree) there's a behavior that's not acceptable. I posted a simple guideline, asked for people's opinion. I'm not sure what position you're arguing for anymore, as I've conceded that according to the definition of harassment you gave, what I talked about isn't harassment.
Are you now arguing that its practically impossible to make kind of guidelines about how men ought or ought not talk to women in these ways?
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Originally posted by Paprika View PostMany who are not Christians think that having sex outside of marriage is not wrong; I am not convinced that they have a rational basis to condemn the acts of lust we have been discussing.
The intended distinction was between harassment and compliment; later you corrected to lustful vs non-lustful (when not in the context of marriage),
but it should be clear that complimenting someone on the hair, or on their beauty in general could be motivated by lust.
Hence it makes no sense to imply as you did that you can draw a bright clear line where these acts fall into the 'acceptable' side.
Are you now arguing that its practically impossible to make kind of guidelines about how men ought or ought not talk to women in these ways?
Somehow I doubt you're going for a 'boys will be boys' approach.
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