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  • I am giving up...

    I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

    Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

    Thanks in advance.

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    Find any job to establish habit of going to work and earning your own money. Think about what does interest you and look for opportunities in that direction. Think about what a potential employer is looking for and train yourself for that role.

    Apprenticeships?

    College courses often do not train people for work. In most cases, work skills are learned by working.
    “I think God, in creating man, somewhat overestimated his ability.” ― Oscar Wilde
    “And if there were a God, I think it very unlikely that He would have such an uneasy vanity as to be offended by those who doubt His existence” ― Bertrand Russell
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Seeker View Post
      I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

      Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

      Thanks in advance.
      Find out what you have an interest in, fast, and then put everything you've got into it. Or as Joseph Campbell put it, "follow your bliss."

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      • #4
        I agree with firstfloor's advice. If you can find some work - maybe part time? - that will give you experience, some money, and a sense of achievement.

        Other thoughts -

        If you are close to finishing your studies, you should most probably complete them. Shows persistence, gives you a qualification (which shows your ability etc). You may be able to parlay your IT skills into work in more appealing areas.

        Set yourself some goals - then break them down into the steps you need to complete to get them. Make a chart or plan for each goal, with the steps on it, and start working towards those steps. Put the chart somewhere you can see it, and mark off as you complete steps - make them small enough to be achievable!
        ...>>> Witty remark or snarky quote of another poster goes here <<<...

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Seeker View Post
          I am 25 years old, I have never properly worked in my life, I live off my mom's, I only study (online graduation), but I have absolutely no interest in my area of study either (IT)...

          Do you guys have any advice? What should I do? I am becoming rather tired of my own situation...

          Thanks in advance.
          Figure out what you love to do, and find a way to get paid to do it.
          "Neighbor, how long has it been since you’ve had a big, thick, steaming bowl of Wolf Brand Chili?”

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          • #6
            Originally posted by firstfloor View Post
            Find any job to establish habit of going to work and earning your own money. Think about what does interest you and look for opportunities in that direction. Think about what a potential employer is looking for and train yourself for that role.

            Apprenticeships?

            College courses often do not train people for work. In most cases, work skills are learned by working.
            Okay. Who hijacked ff's account and used it to post some pretty sound advice?

            I'm always still in trouble again

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            • #7
              Originally posted by JimL View Post
              Find out what you have an interest in, fast, and then put everything you've got into it. Or as Joseph Campbell put it, "follow your bliss."
              If, say, watching TV, playing video games and eating pizza happens to be your "bliss" then you might wanna rethink that since I seriously doubt many people can make a living doing that. But if you can then more power to ya.

              I'm always still in trouble again

              "You're by far the worst poster on TWeb" and "TWeb's biggest liar" --starlight (the guy who says Stalin was a right-winger)
              "Of course, human life begins at fertilization that’s not the argument." --Tassman

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              • #8
                I would add, have a backup plan. If career A doesn't work out the way you'd like, have a plan for career B. Trust me.
                Curiosity never hurt anyone. It was stupidity that killed the cat.

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                • #9
                  And realize that you may need to do something you're not wild about doing while pursuing the thing you want to be doing.
                  "Neighbor, how long has it been since you’ve had a big, thick, steaming bowl of Wolf Brand Chili?”

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                  • #10
                    This is common among young men, no stable sense of self-worth, no sense of respectable place in society. You're not a trust fund kid like JimL, therefore get a job. Passion has its time and place, and should have the least priority over the much more important stuff. This is not to say that you should plunge into the rat race and start a soulless career, but deal with the most important things first.

                    In order, pray and read Scripture. Regularly exercise. Be pragmatic about passion, and get a job.

                    First get the sense that you can stand on your own two feet, then start pursuing passion.
                    Last edited by demi-conservative; 11-02-2019, 05:02 PM.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by demi-conservative View Post
                      This is common among young men, no stable sense of self-worth, no sense of respectable place in society. You're not a trust fund kid like JimL, therefore get a job. Passion has its time and place, and should have the least priority over the much more important stuff. This is not to say that you should plunge into the rat race and start a soulless career, but deal with the most important things first.

                      In order, pray and read Scripture. Regularly exercise. Be pragmatic about passion, and get a job.

                      First get the sense that you can stand on your own two feet, then start pursuing passion.
                      I second this advice. Also:

                      When I went through this sort of lost time in my early 20s, trying pick a direction in life, I received two practical bits of advice that really helped me:

                      1) Just make a decision. You can always change your mind later, and life doesn't always work out the way you'd planned.

                      and, even more important....

                      2) Imagine who it is that you want to be, and then come up with a plan to be the person. No one else is going to do it for you.
                      "If you believe, take the first step, it leads to Jesus Christ. If you don't believe, take the first step all the same, for you are bidden to take it. No one wants to know about your faith or unbelief, your orders are to perform the act of obedience on the spot. Then you will find yourself in the situation where faith becomes possible and where faith exists in the true sense of the word." - Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by rogue06 View Post
                        Okay. Who hijacked ff's account and used it to post some pretty sound advice?
                        I think I amen'd it before I realized it was him.
                        "Neighbor, how long has it been since you’ve had a big, thick, steaming bowl of Wolf Brand Chili?”

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                        • #13
                          So, may I please change the thread title to something a little less depressing?
                          "Neighbor, how long has it been since you’ve had a big, thick, steaming bowl of Wolf Brand Chili?”

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Cow Poke View Post
                            And realize that you may need to do something you're not wild about doing while pursuing the thing you want to be doing.
                            One of my coworkers at the department store was working retail to put herself through cosmetology school, and was planning on working as a hairdresser to put herself through school to be a psychologist.

                            Sometimes you have to work at a job you hate in order to end up in a job you love.
                            Curiosity never hurt anyone. It was stupidity that killed the cat.

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                            • #15
                              For what it's worth, you don't have to love your job either to be content. Obviously, don't do something you actively hate, but sometimes working a "just ok" job is perfectly fine when you have goals and aspirations outside of work.

                              "Fire is catching. If we burn, you burn with us!"
                              "I'm not going anywhere. I'm going to stay here and cause all kinds of trouble."
                              Katniss Everdeen


                              Christ our Passover has been sacrificed for us. Therefore let us keep the feast.

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