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Book Plunge: Cherish

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  • Book Plunge: Cherish

    Do you cherish your spouse?

    The link can be found here.

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    What do I think about Gary Thomas's book published by Zondervan? Let's plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    Think back to your wedding. Okay? You got it in mind. Remember that promise you made? You promised to love your spouse always. Right? Yes. Of course, you did. You also promised to cherish them. What? You don't remember that? Well, you did. So you say you're covered anyway? Love and cherish are just synonyms?

    Hardly.

    You can love many many people and yet not cherish them. Your spouse is one person you are to cherish. Cherish entails treating them like they are a treasure, a one of a kind, a rare jewel, there is no one else like them. It includes love, but it is not just love. Cherish doesn't mean you think the other person is perfect, but that you focus on the things that are good and be patient and forgiving with the sins that they struggle with knowing that you struggle with them as well.

    Okay, guys. I hear you out there. I know what you men are saying. "I'm sure my wife understands that well, but I'm a man. If I go to all my buddies and say that my wife doesn't cherish me, they'll just laugh at me." So what about we use another word? Would you like your wife to honor you? That sounds more like it, doesn't it?

    "My wife is to honor me? Hey. Does that mean I get more sex? Well, if that's what speaks honor to you, then yes."

    "Hey! Sounds good, doesn't it!"

    "Yeah! It sure does! Nothing makes me feel honored like how my wife treats me under the sheets!"

    "And you sir, are absolutely right. If that speaks honor to you, your wife should aim for that, but may I ask you, what are you doing back?"

    "What?"

    "You heard me. Look. I know about those pictures you're looking at on your computer. I know that you're checking out those other women on TV shows and at the mall. Do you think your wife notices? Do you think you can fully cherish her even if she doesn't notice? Can you fully treat her like the one for you she is if your mind is filled with a multitude of other women?"

    Perhaps marriages would be different then if both spouses did that. Think back to Adam and Eve. On a very traditional interpretation, there is just Adam and Eve. Adam sees Eve and knows that she is his and his alone and he gets to cherish her. She is so unique. Eve gets to see Adam and know that he is the man for her. He is the one to turn to. He is her rock.

    Perhaps also you should watch your words to one another. Are your words speaking love and affirmation? It can be easy to let loose that zinger at the time. C.S. Lewis even once said that we could get a lot of credit to ourselves for not saying that zinger to our spouse that was on the tip of the tongue. It might have knocked out our spouse for the count and won us the argument, but it would have cost us a relationship.

    And isn't that another thing about cherishing? Cherishing has to be a lifestyle. Intimacy has to be built up by both people. Both people have to learn to make sacrifices. Once you marry, it is no longer just you. It is both of you together. If one person is failing, both are failing. If one person is succeeding, both are succeeding. In fact, there is only one area you and your spouse should truly compete in. That's cherishing. Do each of you strive to be more cherishing to the other?

    Gary Thomas's book on this is a huge wake-up call. I went through and highlighted many such places. Sometimes I wish I had read the chapter that I read earlier. There is so much good in here and if we want to see marriage lived out properly in a culture trying to redefine it, then we need to be learning to people who cherish.

    Treat your spouse as a treasure. Learn to give more than to get. See the other person as the unique individual they are. Remember those vows you made on your wedding day. Be a person of your word. You said you were going to cherish. Do it. Cherish.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters

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    It took me some years to learn this.
    Micah 6:8 He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

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