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    What kind of rejection is divorce?

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    On what level is divorce experienced as rejection? Let's plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out.

    I was talking with a good friend of mine over the weekend about divorce and rejection and I figured this would be something good to write about. Divorce is a form of rejection indeed, but there is a deeper sense of it than any other kind that I know of. Divorce is a rejection that stings every day.

    I understand being rejected by the opposite sex. That happens, and it stings, but the worst part of this rejection is that in this case, you have given everything you have to a member of the opposite sex and made a promise to honor them and have been living it out and you still get told it's not enough. This is not to say there are not times where divorce can be a sad necessity, but this is talking about people like myself who strived every day to honor our vows.

    I remember being in DivorceCare and hearing a girl say "Well, when the person who made a promise to you to honor and cherish you always breaks that promise, other rejections really don't bother you." Good for her, but I was on the opposite end. For me, every rejection reminds me of that one.

    It is something that remains with you every day. I had an interview for a scholarship opportunity here over the weekend and in talking about it since the man wanted my story, and he told me if I wanted to know who all tends to hate divorce the most, the answer is simple. Divorced people. He's absolutely right. We hate it.

    Rejection is painful because you are being told you are not up to quality in some way. It hurts to the degree that the person has a place in your life. If it's someone you have a crush on and ask out and they say no, it will hurt to the degree that you put a certain amount of hope in that person. If it's a parent or family member, it will hurt to the degree that you wanted to have a good relationship with that person.

    A divorce hurts you to the degree that that relationship meant to you. Considering it's someone that you, if you're in a Christian marriage, made a promise to God and man to honor forever, it can hurt all the more since this is the last relationship that should have ended. It was entered in freely with a promise and it has become shattered.

    Peter Kreeft has said divorce is like a suicide and a murder at the same time. You take the one-flesh union that has been built and you kill it. It is destroying another person, the other one in the covenant, and yourself as well. Of course, it's up to the parties involved how they choose to live from that point on.

    For all concerned about me, as I said in the interview, I am still playing to win. It's why I'm still looking to remarry again someday. It hurts every day, but it's up to me if I am going to have the hurt conquer me or if I am going to conquer it. I have deliberately chosen to do the latter. My writings on this are mainly to let others know what it's like and to encourage those in this situation.

    When you talk to people who are divorced or going through it, remember what you say. The only people who really understand it are the ones who have gone through it. Others can have compassion, but it will be one that doesn't see what it's fully like through no fault of their own, and hopefully, they never will see it.

    In Christ,
    Nick Peters
    (And I affirm the virgin birth)


    On what level is divorce experienced as rejection? Let’s plunge into the Deeper Waters and find out. I was talking with a good friend of mine over the weekend about divorce and rejection and I figured this would be something good to write about. Divorce is a form of rejection indeed, but there is a … Continue reading Divorce And Rejection

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