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Just remember guys, it is NOT about the nail!

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  • TheWall
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    I don't think it works like that. Unless the nail is in her armpit and is keeping her from bleeding out.

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  • Sparko
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    she is obviously not in pain. The nail is the only thing keeping her alive.

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  • TheWall
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    If you keep the nail in you get things like tetanus, gangrene, lock jaw, and possibly staph infections.

    I would think that someone just being there to help someone through the pain could say a lot.

    I am not married. I just would do that. Be there to help. Even if I was inconsequential.

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  • Sparko
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    Originally posted by TheWall View Post
    Yeah I know its about emotional connection. My question is couldn't taking out the nail help form a connection?
    But if you take the nail out, then her brains might squirt out.

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  • Bill the Cat
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    Originally posted by TheWall View Post
    Cant you form a relationship by taking out the nail?
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    Absolutely.

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  • Bill the Cat
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    That's just silly. Take the nail out. There will be ample situations that you CAN'T fix that the emotional connection can be cultivated. This was just plain stupid. Sorry, but 24 years of marriage have taught me that sometimes you need to be the rational one, and that in the long run, fixing a short term problem is so much better than letting it fester and become a long term emotional one.

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  • TheWall
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    Originally posted by Sparko View Post
    it's not about the nail.
    Yeah I know its about emotional connection. My question is couldn't taking out the nail help form a connection?

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  • Sparko
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    it's not about the nail.

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  • TheWall
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    Originally posted by Raphael View Post
    No
    Why not? It seems like a good starting pount to me.

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  • Raphael
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    Originally posted by TheWall View Post
    Cant you form a relationship by taking out the nail?
    No

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  • TheWall
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    Cant you form a relationship by taking out the nail?
    I wouldnt want a nail in my foot. I dont think anyone would. Maybe thats just me though.

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  • Apologiaphoenix
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    Oh women can use that card often, and in fact men have their own cards. I'm just talking about the initial thing. I have many times where Allie can say something and I'll tell her I've already said all I can say and we leave the rest for her counseling sessions.

    It's a way men and women influence each other. Allie is much more emotion-focused and I'm much more intellect-focused. We rub off on each other in these areas as well.

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  • rogue06
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    Originally posted by Apologiaphoenix View Post
    While I agree with Rogue
    And so begins your being doomed.

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  • Sparko
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    Originally posted by Apologiaphoenix View Post
    No. This really doesn't follow.

    Besides, any married guy knows that that comfort means you can often get to hold your wife really close. That can be its own reward.
    Yeah if you want a whiny pet that uses "suffering" as bait.

    I had a friend who was dating this one girl who was very independant and athletic. After a while he wanted to break it off and just after he did, she had a car accident and he felt sorry for her and comforted her. From that point on, she used suffering and problems as a hook to keep him. He eventually married her but he was never happy. And whenever anyone was around she would love to list her ailment and give my friend puppydog eyes till he hugged and comforted her. She had back problems, nerve problems, migraines, and so on. Nothing that could be objectively diagnosed.

    You can hug and love your wife without being a crutch (not talking about you personally Nick) and she can do the same for you. Mutual care and compassion is what a marriage needs. Not someone who is just looking to use suffering as a way to keep someone close or to use as a battering ram against them ("You never listen! How can you treat me like that! I am hurting!")

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  • Apologiaphoenix
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    Originally posted by Sparko View Post
    Nah. You are just henpecked.

    Just pull the nail out. If you see the problem then you have listened to her and you can solve the problem. Then if she keeps whining, it is her just feeling sorry for herself for no reason.
    No. This really doesn't follow.

    Besides, any married guy knows that that comfort means you can often get to hold your wife really close. That can be its own reward.

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