Not sure how much, of anything, I have shared about my eldest daughter's quest for motherhood, including spending bunches of money on medical procedures and means and methods.
About a year ago, a colleague at her husband's workplace (a fellow cop) opened the door to the possibility that they (my daughter and son-in-law) might get to be new parents, because there was a baby whose mother had been declared unfit, and this couple (my son-in-law's fellow cop) would be in very influential in the future custody of the baby.
It all went very smoothly, with my daughter and her husband getting temporary custody, and we were working through the courts to make this legally permanent.
On the VERY DAY that things would become a "permanent standing order", the fellow cop's wife (let's call her Jezebel) suddenly changed her mind, and effectively ripped little Kase out of our lives. We had no legal recourse - her husband was the blood relative, but she was calling all the shots, and for whatever reason, she just "snapped" and decided to keep the baby for herself, after we (and our church) had grown to love him for 6 months.
The door was absolutely slammed shut in our faces, with no hope on the horizon of anything changing.
Then my daughter got a text last week - out of the blue - from Jezebel. She had been keeping her husband totally out of this, and was demanding that he NOT be involved in the process, and she really really seemed to have a problem with my son-in-law who let her know how he felt about what she had done to them and to Kase.
She said in the text that she was reconsidering things, and would be open to getting things back on track for us to have the baby, but ONLY IF my son-in-law apologized for being mean to her. That didn't go over well, because it just seemed like more emotional nonsense, and we weren't playing that game. As hard as it was for my daughter and her husband -- they declined the opportunity to "get back on track" because they felt it would only lead to another heartbreak, both for them, and for Kase.
Again, door slammed shut.
THEN, the fellow cop took my son-in-law aside at work, and said, "hey, things are changing, I think we're going to get back on track, and this time I'm involved and will be calling the shots". Shock. He had not been involved at all, as he and his wife were on the edge of divorce.
Next thing we knew, my daughter got a text from Jezebel asking if my daughter and her husband could meet with her (Jezebel) and her husband.
They had dinner together, and Kase was there. Amazingly enough, they - Jezebel and her husband - BOTH stated that they felt like the best thing for Kase was for him to be back in our lives, because my daughter and her husband would make wonderful parents, and we have a support system including our whole Church who fell in love with Kase.
I'm trying hard not to get too overly excited, but the plan for now is weekend custody through September, and full custody beginning in October.
So, this is both a PRAISE (that we got this far all of a sudden, after seemingly a hopeless situation) and a PRAYER REQUEST that God's Will be done.
About a year ago, a colleague at her husband's workplace (a fellow cop) opened the door to the possibility that they (my daughter and son-in-law) might get to be new parents, because there was a baby whose mother had been declared unfit, and this couple (my son-in-law's fellow cop) would be in very influential in the future custody of the baby.
It all went very smoothly, with my daughter and her husband getting temporary custody, and we were working through the courts to make this legally permanent.
On the VERY DAY that things would become a "permanent standing order", the fellow cop's wife (let's call her Jezebel) suddenly changed her mind, and effectively ripped little Kase out of our lives. We had no legal recourse - her husband was the blood relative, but she was calling all the shots, and for whatever reason, she just "snapped" and decided to keep the baby for herself, after we (and our church) had grown to love him for 6 months.
The door was absolutely slammed shut in our faces, with no hope on the horizon of anything changing.
Then my daughter got a text last week - out of the blue - from Jezebel. She had been keeping her husband totally out of this, and was demanding that he NOT be involved in the process, and she really really seemed to have a problem with my son-in-law who let her know how he felt about what she had done to them and to Kase.
She said in the text that she was reconsidering things, and would be open to getting things back on track for us to have the baby, but ONLY IF my son-in-law apologized for being mean to her. That didn't go over well, because it just seemed like more emotional nonsense, and we weren't playing that game. As hard as it was for my daughter and her husband -- they declined the opportunity to "get back on track" because they felt it would only lead to another heartbreak, both for them, and for Kase.
Again, door slammed shut.
THEN, the fellow cop took my son-in-law aside at work, and said, "hey, things are changing, I think we're going to get back on track, and this time I'm involved and will be calling the shots". Shock. He had not been involved at all, as he and his wife were on the edge of divorce.
Next thing we knew, my daughter got a text from Jezebel asking if my daughter and her husband could meet with her (Jezebel) and her husband.
They had dinner together, and Kase was there. Amazingly enough, they - Jezebel and her husband - BOTH stated that they felt like the best thing for Kase was for him to be back in our lives, because my daughter and her husband would make wonderful parents, and we have a support system including our whole Church who fell in love with Kase.
I'm trying hard not to get too overly excited, but the plan for now is weekend custody through September, and full custody beginning in October.
So, this is both a PRAISE (that we got this far all of a sudden, after seemingly a hopeless situation) and a PRAYER REQUEST that God's Will be done.
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